Ayn Rand(1905-1982), forerunner of venitism, pointed out that love, friendship, respect, admiration are the emotional response of one person to the virtues of another, the spiritual payment given in exchange for the personal, selfish pleasure which one man derives from the virtues of another person's character.
Basil Venitis asserts that sincerity is prerequisite of intimacy. Lying to your lover always brings problems and separation. A German court has given pop singer Nadja Benaissa a two-year suspended sentence for having unprotected sex while failing to tell her sexual partners she was HIV positive. The 28-year-old Benaissa is a member of the popular girl band No Angels. Benaissa discovered she was HIV positive in 1999 when she was three months pregnant.
Benaissa was arrested in April 2009 for having unprotected sex with three men in 2004 and 2006 and failing to inform them of her HIV status. To do so can be classified as aggravated assault under German law. Instead of jail time, the pop star is expected to complete 300 hours of community service and attend regular counseling sessions.
Rand asserts that to love is to value. Only a rationally selfish man, a man of self-esteem, is capable of love, because he is the only man capable of holding firm, consistent, uncompromising, unbetrayed values. The man who does not value himself, cannot value anything or anyone. One gains a profoundly personal, selfish joy from the mere existence of the person one loves. It is one's own personal, selfish happiness that one seeks, earns and derives from love.
Romance is a term that is described as a pleasurable feeling of excitement and wonder associated with love. Romantic love, in the full sense of the term, is an emotion possible only to the person of unbreached self-esteem: it is his response to his own highest values in the person of another, an integrated response of mind and body, of love and sexual desire. Such a person is incapable of experiencing a sexual desire divorced from spiritual values.
Rand notes that like any other value, love is not a static quantity to be divided, but an unlimited response to be earned. The love for one friend is not a threat to the love for another, and neither is the love for the various members of one's family, assuming they have earned it. The most exclusive form, romantic love, is not an issue of competition. If two men are in love with the same woman, what she feels for either of them is not determined by what she feels for the other and is not taken away from him. If she chooses one of them, the loser could not have had what the winner has earned.
It is only among the irrational, emotion-motivated persons, whose love is divorced from any standards of value, that chance rivalries, accidental conflicts and blind choices prevail. But then, whoever wins does not win much. Among the emotion-driven, neither love nor any other emotion has any meaning.
If one wants to measure the intensity of a particular instance of love, one does so by reference to the hierarchy of values of the person experiencing it. A man may love a woman, yet may rate the neurotic satisfactions of sexual promiscuity higher than her value to him. Another man may love a woman, but may give her up, rating his fear of the disapproval of others higher than her value. Still another man may risk his life to save the woman he loves, because all his other values would lose meaning without her.
Whether that relationship should or should not become a marriage is a question which depends on the circumstances and the context of the two persons' lives. Marriage a very important institution, but it is important when and if two people have found the person with whom they wish to spend the rest of their lives, a question of which no man or woman can be automatically certain. When one is certain that one's choice is final, then marriage is, of course, a desirable state. But this does not mean that any relationship based on less than total certainty is improper. The question of an affair or a marriage depends on the knowledge and the position of the two persons involved and should be left up to them. Either is moral, provided only that both parties take the relationship seriously and that it is based on values.
To a rational man, sex is an expression of self-esteem, a celebration of himself and of existence. To the man who lacks self-esteem, sex is an attempt to fake it, to acquire its momentary illusion. A man's sexual choice is the result and the sum of his fundamental convictions. Basil Venitis, an Athenian orator, points out Il Duce cannot control his penis! Il Duce Berlusconi orders up playmates to his official residence as if they were a plate of oysters, by the dozen and preferably young and fresh.
Basil Venitis points out lovelorns now try to find love in cyberspace. More than half of employees confess to accessing social media profiles at work, with many spending so much time friending, tweeting, adding photos and video, as well as updating their profiles, that companies' productivity is suffering as a result. Social media networks have negative repercussions on the productivity of many companies across Fourth Reich(EU).
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